Saturday, April 25, 2009

Thai Dishes North East

The North East

Phaak Tiew (Leaves of Tiew of the Cratoxylum family) is the Queen of the North-eastern vegetables. Young tops, leaves and blossoms are taken with Laab (a kind of dish of which the most important ingredients are minced meat or fish mixed with chillies and lime juice as well as roasted rice and mint leaves), Goi (a kind of dish like Yam but mostly with raw meat as main ingredient), Naam Prig, soup, and Khanom Chin Naam Ya (Steamed Rice Noodles with Curried Fish Sauce). Soup with Phaak Tiew has sour flavor.

1. Soup Dog Phaak Tiew (Soup with Phaak Tiew Blossoms)

Medicinal value: Soup with Phaak Tiew Blossoms is a laxative, and also medicine to get rid of phlegm, to nourish the water element of the body, and relieve nerve-pain.

The soup is harmful to the people having kidney disease, if taken, the body would be swollen.

2. Khaaw Nieu Som Tam Kai Yang (Steamed Glutinous Rice, Papaya Salad and Roast Chicken)

Medicinal value: This dish, with its delicious flavor, helps stimulate appetite, improves digestion and relieves stomach discomfort as well as urinary problem.

3. Kaeng Oom: According to Dictionary (The Royal Academy Version of B.E. 2525), Kaeng Oom is a kind of curry like Kaeng Kua but with bitter melon and many kinds of vegetables. Kaeng Oom of Isaan area is thicken. Frogs, small green frogs, fish, crabs, shellfish, chicken, pork or beef can be an ingredient of Kaeng Oom.

Qualities: Besides having a pleasing flavor, Kaeng Oom helps nourishment and improvement of he body?s chemical elements, as well as provides 5 groups of nutrition. Herbal ingredients provide medicinal values.

4. Plaa Chon Jim Jaew (Steamed Serpent-head Fish with powdered chilli in fish-soy sauce)

Qualities: Fish provides protein; vegetables give vitamins and minerals. According to the ancient Thai medicine, Plaa Chon?s meat is good to all chemical elements. Its helps get rid of the wind element, relieves the pain caused by pustles, cures children?s disease as well as releases all toxins.

5. Jaew Bon (Minced Fish preserved with salt mixed with local herbs)

Qualities: Jaew Bon gets rid of sweats, releases stomach discomfort, stimulates appetite and nourishes the body?s chemical elements.

6. Soup Nor Mai (Bamboo-shoots soup)

The Isaan people have Soup Nor Mai as their daily food. Besides digging bamboo- shoots in the woods, they grow bamboos near houses. Bamboo ? shoots which are abundant in their proper season are preserved in metal containers as pickled, or boiled.

Fresh Bamboo shoots have a bitter flavor and a high amount of cyanide. They must be boiled, before taken with food, to decrease the bitterness, and the cyanide acid. Boiling fresh bamboo shoots to get rid of the biter taste and dangerous acid reveals the local wisdom of Thai folks.

Qualities: Bamboo shoots have a great amount of fibres which helps smoothen the bowel movement. Salted fish and vegetables which are main ingredients of this soup provide vitamins and protein.

Op choei
Scientific name:Cinamomum bejolghota
(Buch.-Ham.) Sweet
Vernacular name:Op choei

Op choei is the dried bark of a tree of Cinnamomum bejolghota. The agreeably sweet woody aroma is quite delicate and suite to both sweet and savoury dishes. The spice is widely used for flavouring in making incense, pomanders and pot-pouris. This evergreen, with silky panicles of tiny, cream, malodorous flowers and purple berries, is coppiced to create finger-thick stems for harvesting. The bark quills are added to savoury dishes in Asian and African cookery, and desserts and drink in Europe. Essential oil in the leaves, bark stems, and roots flavour and scent food and perfumes. Leaf oil is used for its antiseptic, tonic and warming properties to treat nausea, and hypertension.


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Thursday, April 9, 2009

8 Honey Beauty Tips

According to the dictionary, honey is a sweet yellowish or brownish fluid produced by various bees from the nectar of flowers. Besides using honey as food, did you know that honey is one of the oldest and most effective beauty aids?

Honey contains waxes, sugars, and traces of minerals. It is a natural moisturizer, as well as an anti-irritant making it suitable for sensitive skin types. Honey can be found in many of the beauty products you find in your local drug store or favorite beauty supply store. Some of these products can be very expensive to purchase and many of these products can be made at home.

Try some of the following honey beauty tips below. Please be sure not to use honey on your skin if you are allergic to it!

1. Honey mask: Apply pure honey to your face and allow it to set until dry. This will take about 15 minutes. Once dry, rinse your face with warm water.

2. Body glow bath: To moisturize, smooth, and get an all over body glow, keep a jar of honey next to your bath. Apply honey on your skin and pat dry using both hands. While patting your skin, the honey will get sticky and gently pull up your skin. Rinse away the honey when you are done. The results will be great circulation and beautiful, glowing skin!

3. Honey bath: For sweet smelling and soft skin, add ? to ? cup of honey to your bath water.

4. Honey scrub: Mix 1 teaspoon of honey with a little almond flour into the palm of your hand. Gently apply on your face for a facial scrub. Rinse your face with warm water to remove honey scrub.

5. Daily facial cleanser: Mix 1 teaspoon of honey with a little milk powder into the palm of your hand. Apply on your face to clean away dirt and makeup and then rinse with warm water.

6. Shiny Hair: To add some shine to your hair, mix 1 teaspoon of honey, a squeeze of fresh lemon, and 1 quart of warm water. Shampoo your hair as usual and then pour the honey mixture on your hair. Allow your hair to dry as normal. You do not have to rinse out the honey mixture.

7. Hair conditioner: For healthy hair and scalp, combine ? cup of honey and 2 tablespoons of olive oil. Saturate your hair with the honey mixture, put on a shower cap and allow it to remain on hair for 30 minutes. After 30 minutes, shampoo and rinse your hair as you normally do.

8. Skin toner: To firm, smooth, and moisturize your skin, combine 1 peeled, cored apple with 1 tablespoon of honey in a blender. Pulse honey mixture until smooth. Gently apply honey mixture on face and allow it to remain for 15 minutes. Rinse your face with warm water to remove the honey mixture.

With the above beauty tips, you can create affordable spa-like products at home. Honey is a wonderful beauty product because it contains naturally occurring enzymes, vitamins, and minerals. Be sure your honey is all natural by purchasing only 100% pure honey to create your beauty products.

Lesley Dietschy is a writer, jewelry designer, beauty editor and the founder of a network of popular websites including http://www.HomeDecorExchange.com and http://www.HomeGardenExchange.com Both of these websites feature valuable information and resources to assist you in decorating your home and garden.

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Wednesday, April 8, 2009

A Garden in Your Craft Room Drying and Pressing Flowers

One of the most beautiful craft supplies you can use is available to you in your own back yard. That's right-you don't have to look any farther than your garden for pretty flowers that can be pressed or dried to use in a variety of fun craft projects. Flowers are inexpensive and give your crafts that special earthy touch for little cost to you. Drying and pressing flowers is not difficult, so you can begin the process today.

The easiest way to preserve your flowers is by hanging them to dry. This works well for bouquets from your garden, as well as for arrangements you may give as a gift. First, remove any parts of the flower you don't wish to keep, such as excess leaves. Divied the flowers into small bunches so there is ample room for them to dry, and then tie the miniature bouquets together with ribbon or band them together with rubber bands. Hang them upside down somewhere that is dry so that your flowers don't rot, and make sure the place is also dark, since light can fade your flowers. Check on your flowers every few days and they should be ready to use in your craft projects after just two weeks!

If you want to use the flowers for a different use, however, such as decoupage, you can press them. This is not a good way to keep densely-petaled flowers, like marigolds, but it works well for rose petals, violets, leaves, and other flowers that are already semi-flat. To do this project, you'll need cardboard, newspaper, and tissue paper. Lay a piece of each down, in that order, and then arrange your flowers to be pressed. Make sure that they are not touching one another. Cover with another piece of tissue paper, another piece of newspaper, and another piece of cardboard. You can repeat the process again now if you have more flowers to press than would fit on one layer. Once you finish with the last piece of cardboard, set a heavy book, like an encyclopedia book or large dictionary on top of the whole thing, and bricks or heavy rocks on top of that. After about 4 weeks, your flowers will be pressed and ready to use in craft projects.

How you use your dried and pressed flowers is up to you. They're great for making everything from gifts to greeting cards! Don't overlook this great craft supply when you're designing new projects.

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Sunday, April 5, 2009

The Top Ten Floral Names For Baby Girls

In Victorian England, beginning around the middle of the 19th century, little girls were routinely named after flowers. The flowery nature of that era ? which gave rise to countless Violets, Hyacinths, and even little Buttercups ? extended into the early 20th century, after which time, both in England and the United States, floral baby names faded from sight almost completely.



In the England of the Industrial Revolution, perhaps as a way of maintaining a connection with a fast-disappearing natural landscape, house plants were introduced into homes, and floral names were bestowed on girls. Names such as Blossom, Dahlia, Marigold, Primrose, Posy, Poppy, and even Daffodil, are all recorded in the authoritative Dictionary of First Names, by Hanks and Hodges, as having been popular girls' names in Victorian England. Their popularity extended beyond the turn of the century, and a few, such as Poppy, stayed in vogue even until the 1920s. After that time, the use of floral names tapered off considerably. The most notable exception is the name Heather, which was not really a Victorian favorite, but surprisingly, was extremely popular in the United States in the 1970s through the 1980s.



Today, while floral baby names are still unusual, they retain a special niche, and in some cases are enjoying a resurgence. In the past year alone, at least five celebrities have used the name Rose for their daughters. Inexplicably, as if they liked the name Rose but lacked confidence in their choice, the name was used each time as a middle name! The actress Anna Gunn, of HBO's Deadwood; the English soccer star John Terry; singer Melissa Etheridge; actor Jon Favreau, and comedian Jon Stewart all bestowed the name Rose as a middle name on their newborn daughters.



This list of today's top ten floral names is based for the most part on data from the Social Security Administration's Baby Names website. The number ten name, Marguerite, is ranked number ten based on its most recent census ranking, because like many floral baby names, it does not appear on the Social Security Administration's top 1000 list, and thus its exact ranking is not known.



The list is a purely floral list, meaning the names that appear are either the names of flowers, or have a close association with a floral term. Specifically, the list does not include any of the beautiful baby names that are actually plants, shrubs or trees ? names such as Holly, Willow, Juniper, Fern, and so on. Beautiful as these names are, they do not truly belong on a baby names list based on flowers.



As of 2005, the top ten floral baby names in the United States, in order of popularity, are:



Jasmine Lily Daisy Heather Rose Iris Violet Rosemary Yolande Marguerite



If Rose is the hot new middle name, there are four other names in this list that are increasing in popularity. Daisy, Jasmine, Lily, and Violet have all become more common in the last decade or so. In the case of Daisy and Violet, it represents a return to an earlier popularity: both were in the top 100 girls' names in the United States a century ago. The names Jasmine and Lily are extremely popular in the U.S. today, and may just connote a new interest in the rich choices of floral baby names.







Neil Street is co-publisher of Baby Names Garden, a website dedicated to helping prospective parents choose a baby name. He has written about floral baby names and many other aspects of baby naming, including popularity and trends. He is also the editor of the Celebrity Baby Names Blog.

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Friday, April 3, 2009

Dog Days And Sultry Nights




 



Dog Days And Sultry NightsSubmitted By: Silvia Bianco  
















Immersed in the dog days of summer--which Webster's dictionary defines as: 1. the period between early July and early September when the hot sultry weather of summer usually occurs in the northern hemisphere and 2. a period of stagnation or inactivity--I feel it's effects profoundly. The ancient Romans called this time the dog days after the constellation, Sirius, the dog star which shines high in the northern hemisphere at this time of year. Certainly, in August, Rome is especially hot and muggy and Italians flee en mass to experience the sultry breezes of area beaches. leaving only the tourists to walk the heat drenched streets. In this sense, I couldn't help but notice that maybe we, too, are becoming more Italian.


My usually thriving New England community, now eerily quiet under the dog sky, has dispersed to the beaches as well, leaving the rest of us behind to our inactivity and stagnation. Yet the inactivity of my body, when it's just too hot to do much of anything, has effortlessly led to a flow of activity in my mind, which transferred itself to my hands.


I sat for hours outside in the shade of my roofed patio of river rocks, around a bistro table, with a fan blowing overhead, watching my vegetable and herb garden expand before my eyes wondering at the magic of what was started from seed, now bearing the fruit of numerous meals shared with friends. For one, a young woman and recent transplant from Russia, the aroma of the tomato plants brought her back to her grandmother's garden in a remote coastal village of what was once the Soviet Union. For a moment, time and space did not exist as we tossed a salad of tomatoes, slivered red onions and basil drizzled with extra virgin olive oil and a sprinkling of salt.


With another foreign transplant--a fellow Italian-- we dined on fresh baby salad greens, tossed in a balsamic vinaigrette and the blossoms from my massive zucchini plant dunked in a tempura batter, fried crispy on the out side, coating a delicate sweetness within---this, a seasonal delicacy from our youth, I also shared with a young California native who ate these blossoms for the first time. And then with another friend who after more than 30 years still remembers, as a young girl in Greece, picking these beautiful salmon colored flowers in the morning when their petals were wide open so they could be stuffed before frying. It seems at times that food and sky know no time or geography.


For my children who love a dish of pasta with tomato pesto, I made a slightly different version of this classic sauce---a pesto of tarragon, basil and parsley. I tossed the linguine only with the tomato sauce, then added a tablespoon of cream to the pesto and added a large dollop of it on top of each individual plate of pasta. This way with each twirl of the linguine, you dragged a bit of the pesto with it, getting the full taste of its intense flavor---unbelievably good.


Each time I prepared even the simplest meal from my garden, it was a reminder of how truly delicious fresh ingredients are. You've never tasted a tomato until you've bitten into one just plucked from the vine, eaten like the fruit it is. Herbs are a completely new experience when they're picked and torn over your food. And peas are truly sweet, eaten right from their pod. You haven't truly experienced summer until you've dined on its fruits under the dog stars, listening to the rustle of the wind in the trees, felt the humid, sultry air on your skin, and talked far into the night with a close friend who simply gets you.


Maybe the dog days of summer are meant to be inactive for us because the earth is so busy creating, she wants us to do nothing more than pay it the attention it deserves. Maybe in order to learn the secrets of its ways we need to first be witnesses to its boundless, graceful activity.


So gather with a friend or two and in your inactivity and stagnation, contemplate the universe while you munch on some tasty morsels from our great Earth.


Have a great month,
Chef Silvia














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Monday, March 30, 2009

Golfer' Back Exercise Can Eliminate Back Pain

Golfer' back exercise is a key part of any golf-specific exercise routine.

A closer look at the golf swing will show clearly that it heavily depends on and indeed leans on the back. Actually a perfect golf swing is really all about using the spine as an axis to allow the correct swing plane. The spine is at the very center and core of the golf swing.

The facts of the matter are that a golfer with a back problem will always face an uphill and maybe impossible task when it comes to improving on their game. The back will always come in the way of any efforts at improvement.

This is where golfer' back exercise come in. They can be extremely useful in helping solve this nagging problem amongst the many golfers who suffer from this problem which can be both very painful and frustrating.

There are cases where the back problem started even before the golfer started playing golf and there are other cases where it starts shortly after they start frequenting a golf course. There are even cases where the problem is greatly aggravated by golf. Chances of getting an improvement on your game from all three different scenarios with the help of golfer back exercises are very high.

Many golfer' back exercise involve stretching exercises some of which I have covered in previous articles. Interestingly enough, I have witnessed some of these stretch exercises helping some golfers with chronic back pain problems.

There are some who have been fortunate enough to have the problem completely disappear while others have gotten a great deal of relief as a result of the golfer' back exercise.

golfer' back exercise can also help golfers who have never experienced any back problems to avoid them altogether. As we have already seen, the golf swing involves so much use of the back that injury to it is quite easy. Especially where the golfer is not involved in any golf exercise program let alone golfer' back exercise.

About The Author: Mike Pedersen is one of the top golf fitness experts in the country, author of the Ultimate Golf Fitness Guide, and founder of several cutting-edge online golf fitness sites. Take a look at his just released golf fitness dvds at http://www.performbettergolf.com

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Christmas For One: Mental Health Over the HolidaysKristin Johnson My dear friend, poet Dessa Byrd Reed, often spends holidays alone as a widow. However, she doesn't see this, as many people often do, as a depressing circumstance. In a November 2000 POETIC VOICES interview, she said, Because I am single and live alone, I eat out a lot. I love to talk to strangers. That's one of my favorite things. I go out for breakfast and talk to people.

Another talented writer, Leslie Lafayette, dealt with being a childless woman by choice in WHY DON'T YOU HAVE KIDS?: Living a Full Life Without Parenthood. You can bet that because of her choice many people would pity her. She writes the Alone Again, Naturally column for the outstanding magazine THE DESERT WOMAN. Observers might conclude she's miserable on the holidays.

Both Leslie and Dessa have full lives and radiate Christmas cheer, not just in December but all year round. While we all need human contact, it's a mistake to conclude that people without the traditional family dinner are all on suicide watch. Anyone who has negotiated where to have Christmas and which family members can come when, not to mention refereed in-law and spouse disputes, knows that the allure of having a table for one at Christmas is powerful.

However, when people aren't alone by choice, Christmas can be lonely. In Michigan, I interviewed a woman, the founder of a divorced and widowed support group, who chose to have Christmas dinner every year for lonely widows, widowers and divorced people, usually from her support group. Her children understood that she needed to start this new tradition in her new life.

Similarly, having children around, even with the relentless gimmes and commercialism, lends a special magic to Christmas, which is why playing Santa appeals to so many.

The holidays can be joyous if you're alone, or they can be difficult. As with so much, your feelings depend on your personality, your circumstances, your childhood, and in many cases on medical or psychological conditions.

Some tips to remember if you're alone or without your support system:

  • Take advantage of counseling services in your community, including from your local church, synagogue, temple or other place of worship.

  • Take time out for spirituality. You might attend services just to experience human contact and community. People are generally nicer at Christmas.

  • Do all the things you wanted to do but couldn't in your former life. Travel. Even in this post-9/11 world, you can visit faraway places. There are many tour groups for singles.

  • Attend art walks, holiday concerts, lectures, and movie screenings alone. Or invite a friend you haven't talked to in a while.

  • Volunteerit's a wonderful way to make friends, stay active, and feel fulfilled.

  • Go out to dinner alone! While women in particular feel uncomfortable, project an air of confidence. You are a strong, vital woman. This doesn't mean that you should go bar-hopping or take risks alone at night. But you have the right to ask for a table for one without feeling as though people are judging you. (Most people are too preoccupied with their own lives to notice.)

  • Gather a circle of friends or people in the same situationjust make sure the evening doesn't turn into a pity party.

  • Don't overdrink, overeat or do drugs. It's just not a good tradition.

  • Bake cookies if you're so inclined. Cookies make wonderful Christmas presents and ways to reconnect with your friends.

You may be tempted to think of yourself as Ebenezer Scrooge. Don't, and boil anyone in his own pudding who calls you Scrooge. You are honoring Christmas in your own heart and keeping it always. Christmas for one, anyone?


Did Your Personality Choose Your Career?Angela Butera Dickson We almost all think we are masters of our own fate. While it is true that we all make our own choices there are many things that influence what we choose. Ask yourself: Why do some people choose professions that help only themselves while others of us choose professions that help those in need?

Health and wellness professionals all share the desire to help others. Our work is commendable and very important, but why do we choose the profession we're in?

Professionals in the caring jobs share some unique qualities. We're almost always creative, sensitive and nurturing. We also almost all share a willingness help others in every way possible and suffer pangs of guilt if we say o. Our willingness to help sometimes comes with a price. It leaves us vulnerable to burn out.

some clients can be draining to even the most enthusiastic wellness professional

Burnout is often the result of a professional feeling overwhelmed with his or her job responsibilities. Let's face it caring for others can be a burden. Even if you love your job facing unmotivated, clients can be draining to even the most enthusiastic wellness professional. Add to this any inside pressure from trying to make a decent living, dealing with negative attitudes of coworkers or pressure with sales commissions and you're on the road to feeling more negative yourself.

Caregivers tend to burn out more quickly than others because we typically put the needs of those around us first. By the time we are through dealing with the issues of our clients, families and friends we have little left for ourselves.

So how do you deal effectively with those clients who seem to have a seek out and destroy personality? Simple, you learn to develop your own epair and replenish skills now and make them an important part of your everyday routine.

Make it a point to be more aware of your surroundings. Try to notice the little things that bring joy to your life and take a moment to reflect on them.

Learn to say o - not all the time but some time. When someone asks for another piece of your time, a little more of your energy, or is looking for you to commit to their newest project, take the time to know if it's the right choice for you. Make it your personal policy to never give an answer that you haven't had at least 24 hours to think about there's much to be said for the adage of let me sleep on it.

Nurture yourself with a trip to the gym, a visit to a day SPA, tickets to your favorite play or concert. Even a leisurely walk can be a rejuvenating gift.

Talk, talk and then talk some more. Find peer professionals that share similar values and goals and talk about work. Some think it's taboo to talk about work on your days off but in reality it is important to be able to share your feelings and frustration with someone who understands how you feel and their feedback can be very helpful.

Vacations aren't just what other people do. You earn the time too. Take your vacation time all together or in shorter bursts. What ever works for you is fine just take those days and forget about work for awhile.

Sometimes a nurturing personality can open the door for our own wellness to suffer and it is up to each person to find the tools that help to keep them on track and healthy. By learning to say no, nurturing yourself, becoming more aware of your surroundings, talking to a trusted peer and taking a break when you can, you'll be able to find a healthy balance in your professional and personal life leading to greater business success and satisfaction.

* Registered US Copyright, Angela Butera Dickson, 2004


Eight Steps to Taking Control of Every Situation in Your Life!Terry Rich Hartley, Ph.D. Like it or not, we are all gladiators. We go to sleep and wake up in a social arena from which there is no escape. Challenge upon challenge confronts us, walls restrain us, and a mob of spectators mocks, sneers, or cheers us. Each and every day brings new battles whether we want them or not and whether we're up to them or not. Life forces us to face one skirmish after another - no choice in the matter.

What we can choose, though, is which kind of gladiator to be, victor or victim.

Being a victim in this social arena translates into having bad relationships.

Most people are victims - victims of their own perceptions.

That's because people don't develop and listen to their own unique, authentic self. Rather they allow their mental spectators - those little tyrants rattling around in their heads - to tell them second by second how to fight their battles, what they can and cannot do. These tyrants applaud and they hiss, they encourage and they discourage.

These mental spectators are the memories of the judgments of real-life people. For example, it's the memory of your aunt saying, I hope you marry someone rich, because you're not going far on brains. It's the echo of your father growling, You've got a back problem - no spine.

And their influence over your relationships can't be overestimated.

Millions of people accept the judgments of their mental spectators as the truth and, therefore, the mediocre results that come from believing those judgments.

With so many people living this way, the question becomes, is this the way I have to live? Fortunately, the answer is not unless you want to.

Once you identify your mental spectators - and your interactions with them - you can move beyond victim and assume the role of victor.

What it takes are eight steps for getting command, eight steps you can apply to most any situation you want altered. You can positively influence your relationships, your employment options, any aspect of your life.

Let's look at the steps.

1. Define What Ails You.


Ask, what's my problem? Am I a jealous weasel, troubled that others have what I want? Am I ticked off most of the time? Am I sad and whiney? Anxiety ridden? Moody? All of the above? Without this step, you're doomed. It will take personal courage, but you won't get results without identifying what ails you.

2. Discover the Effects.


Ask, how are my problems affecting my life? Am I a lousy parent, a friendless dork, a backstabber, a slut, a drunk, a junkie? Am I none of the above, but someone who is less than I could be? This step requires absolute self-honesty, but the truth will help set you free.

3. Seek the Source.


Ask, from where are my problems coming? Who are my real and my mental spectators? What do my mental spectators look like, say, and do? Exactly who or what is keeping me from taking command of my life? This could be one of the most incredible experiences of your life. You will look into the abyss and see who is looking back.

4. Identify Your Role.


Ask, how am I contributing to my problems? What is my responsibility in all this? Did I decide to be a garbage disposal? Do I beat myself to death trying to please others? Do I expect things of myself that are unfair? Do I treat myself as a friend or an enemy? Do I allow my mental spectators to drive me to distraction, depression, anger, anxiety? Recognizing your role in your own problems is a positive - but scary - step toward knowing yourself and gaining personal command.

5. State Your Desires.


Ask, what do I specifically want to do about my problems? Do I want to be a doormat, a slut, a drunk, a friendless geek? Or do I want to rule my mental spectators? Do I want to stand up to a spectator, real or imagined, who puts me down? Do I want to take command of my education, my bank account, my relationships? Until you can actually list your desires in the order of their importance, you will be a victim. However, once you do this, you are on your way to being a victor.

6. Seek Options.


Ask, what are my options, and in what order should I place them? What is the first option I should concentrate on? The second one? The third? If you have a soul-sucking hangover most mornings, you might opt to give up your booze buddies for some real friends. Secondly, take the money you normally spend at bars and deposit it in a college fund for yourself or your kids. If, instead, you're a workaholic and you want to spend more time with your kids, then DO IT. Very few people on their deathbed have said, If I could live life all over again, I'd spend more of it at work and less with people I love. Choices are involved here, but by weighing options and alternatives, and then making personal choices, you are taking command. Do this and you'll begin to gain real power.

7. Learn Winning Techniques.


Ask, how do I rule my real and my mental spectators? Must I collapse in a heap when they point thumbs down? How can I learn to take charge on every level and get a grip on my life? There is no magic involved, but you might feel as if there is. Unlike a vanquished gladiator falling at the whim of spectators, you decide your own course.

8. Master Your Relationships.


Ask, what more can I do to master my relationships by strengthening myself and my perceptions? How do I take command right now in developing my own identification and self-worth? Congratulations! You're working on the one person in the entire world you can work on - YOU! And any improvements in yourself can't help but enrich your relationships with other people and the world around you.

Although this is only a brief overview of each of the eight steps for jump-starting your relationships and taking control of your life, you'd be amazed at how significant the effects of a few minor adjustments in perception can be.


How do I date beautiful women, even celebrities? my idiot client askedJohn Alanis Are you a guy who's interested not only in dating beautiful women, even celebrities, but would like to get beautiful women to approach YOU first? Can it really be done? The answer is an unqualified yes IF you know what to say and do, and what to avoid saying and doing.

Most guys have no clue about the day to day life of stunningly beautiful women. They have no idea how many times a DAY these beautiful women are approached by guys whose obvious interest is to sex them up. And for celebrities, it's even worse. Day in, and day out they hear the same thing: oh you're such beautiful women do you have boyfriends can I take you out and on and on and on. Beautiful women simply become numb to guys asking them these questions, and tune them out.

Now, that's not to say these beautiful women don't want to meet men because they do. Many of them desperately. But beautiful women like a guy who'll say something different to them, something unusual, something that will create attraction in them. And most of all beautiful women crave a man who defines authority for them, one who is not intimidated by their looks (or fame). Let me give you an example.

I'm in the business of teaching other guys how to get desirable, beautiful women to approach them first for a date, no matter their looks, age or income (see www.womenapproachyou.com). And while I rarely take clients, occasionally I'll make a mistake and let someone talk me into helping them.

A few weeks ago I was working with a guy who was desperately in need of help. Like I always do, I asked him, What specifically do you want in beautiful women? What don't you want? And most importantly, what's your ideal experience with a woman? Most of guys, of course, have no specific answers to these questionsand if you don't know what you're looking for, it's extremely difficult to achieve any measure of successwhether with beautiful women or in any area of your life.

This guy, amazingly enough, didn't pause with his answer: I'd like to sex Paris Hiltonand other beautiful women he leered. I was a bit taken abackapparently I don't speak the ew lingo. Sex Paris Hilton, I said. What the heck does that mean, sex Paris Hilton?

It means I'd like to get with her you know, sex her up, sex Paris Hiltonor a woman like her. Ah-ha. So your goal is to share a few adventures with celebrities, or beautiful women who look like celebrities? He nodded eagerlyI'll settle for a look-alike, he said, ut what do I say, what do I do to get beautiful women to even speak to me?

Here's what I told him in regards to beautiful women: first off, get all thoughts of lust out of your head. If you want to spend time with beautiful women, you need to get to know them as people first.

Here's what to do: when you see a beautiful woman (or beautiful women) you want to approach, look her in the eye, and smile slightly, using your aughty little boy smile. Your intent is to make her smile back at you, while you continue to hold her gaze, and smile wider and aughtier. Look for something unusual about her that few other guys would notice, and bring it to her attention. For example:

You look like a well-conditioned athlete what are you training for?

Hmmm, that's a most unusual tattoo what made you decide to get that particular one?

That's a very professional looking business suit what's the occasion for dressing so professionally?

You have a great energy, much like my friends in the martial arts what kind of physical training do you do to have such a great energy or is it just natural?

Or if all else fails, What are smiling about remembering something that makes you grin?

The key is to notice something about her environment, and ask her an open ended question letting her know you're sincerely curious about her. Don't tell her, you're a beautiful woman and I like beautiful women. She's heard that. You want to give her an opportunity to talk about herself, something few guys ever do. They're trying to impress her, instead of shutting up, listening and letting her impress herself about you.

By doing this, you let her know you're interested in her as a person (as opposed to a sweaty piece of meat), that you appreciate her beauty (and beautiful women) but you're not intimidated or especially impressed by it, and that you need to hear more before you let her into your life. When you do this, you will stand out from the crowd that asks her the same questions over and over and overand she'll be more than happy to pick YOU up! (for more great tips, see www.womenapproachyou.com)


Is Your Career Your Calling or Just a 9 to 5?Yasmeen Abdur-Rahman Do you remember your parents asking you what you want to be when you grow up? By the time I was in the 9th grade, my mother started asking me that same question until I graduated from high school. At that time I wasn't 100% sure what career path I would take, but I had several ideas.

Your calling is that passion that you have deep inside the career that defines your purpose in life. Someone once told me if you find a job that you love you'll never have to work a day in your life. Some of us work in careers for so long that we are numb on the inside and outside. We go from appointment to appointment and our days are so mundane. We hardly get any enjoyment out of what we do because it is just another 9 to 5. Have you recently said, I could do this job with my eyes closed?'

People who choose a career, instead of their calling, wake up disappointed that they have to go to work. They hate facing another day. If you find your calling and pursue it, life will become an adventure and not just another 9 to 5.

Ponder over these statements:

  • Your passion directs you to your calling.

  • A calling is who you are.

  • A career is what you do.

  • A calling is 24-7-365.

  • A career is a 9 to 5.

  • A calling is what you would do for free.

  • A career is what they have to pay you to do.

  • A calling cannot be measured with money or fame.

In conclusion, take a few moments to ponder over what is going on in your life today and figure out if it compensates towards your calling. Listen to your mind, body and soul. Don't worry about what others will think or even if they will agree to whatever calling you move towards. Live your life as if tomorrow is your last day on Earth. Enjoy today because tomorrow isn't definite.


Pretend Interest and Apathy... What To Do About Them!Sue and Chuck DeFiore According to Merriam-Webster's dictionary apathy is defined as the following: lack of emotion; lack of interest; indifference.

Wow, that's pretty depressing. However, look around you. Don't many of you work with people with this attitude. I don't, because I run my own business. However, I can remember when I worked for others and how many of the people I worked with fit this description. At that time, I couldn't understand how they could be that way. While I left corporate America, for my own separate set of reasons, apathy was certainly not one of them.

Unfortunately in the business that Chuck and I run we also see too much apathy. Of course, we get people who show what I like to call pretend interest. They figure if they pretend an interest in something else, maybe no one will notice their apathetic behavior.

The individuals who pretend an interest in creative real estate will call us, and want us to guarantee that they will succeed (without any effort I might add). NOTE: NO ONE CAN GUARANTEE YOUR SUCCESS BUT YOU. Or they will want to know how quick they can make a million dollars (again, without doing any work). Or, how do I know it will work for me, in my area. As far as their area, creative real estate works in most areas. However, will it work for them, that I can't answer. They have to decide if they are going to work at it or not, they have to put the effort out. I put effort out every day and get rewarded for it. I realize, however, if there is no effort, there is no reward. For these individuals, because they are so apathetic about everything, of course it won't work. They don't want to work. They are too indifferent.

If you find yourself with the above characteristics, and want to make a change do the following. Find something you have an interest in, that you are not indifferent to, and watch your emotions soar. I am not telling you to quit your job, unless you really want to or need to. Look at your job in a different light or look for something you would like to do, and research it. Find out how you can start it in your spare time, or part time, and build it up so you can get out of where you are. Once you do that you'll have a new purpose for yourself. Put all of yourself into it, heart and soul.

Don't let apathy make you say, I'm not good at anything, I don't know what I want to do, etc. These kind of statements are just perpetuating your apathetic behavior.

If it is not your job that is making you apathetic, take a good hard look at yourself, and be honest so you can find out what it is and do something about it. Sometimes it is as easy as finding a new hobby, or doing something special for yourself - dinner, a movie, walking, whatever, will make an enormous difference. If that doesn't help, go talk to someone on a professional level, but do something to remove the apathetic behavior, and I don't mean by using pretend interest.

As Nike is so fond of saying, Just Do It!

Copyright 2003 DeFiore Enterprises


Ready, Fire, AimJeff Earlywine Does the sub-title to this edition of Footprints and Monuments sound familiar? It does to me in a very real way. When I was a teenager my dad and I loved to go hunting. We would hunt whatever animal happened to be in season at the time, and anything else that moved. Especially snakes, but that is another story.

On one hunting trip my dad and I were about thirty yards from each other waiting for a particular kind of bird to fly over. I was ready. My gun was loaded. My mind was focused. I was going to out shoot my dad on this trip. Well, as I was sitting in my eady position I accidentally pulled the gun's trigger. Boom! As my shotgun let off a great blast I realized that my gun was pointing just a few feet from where my dad was sitting. Obviously, I fired before I aimed and almost killed my father in the process.

I see something similar in people's personal and professional lives all the time. Many get themselves ready with advanced education, power thoughts, and influential friends, but they fire before they aim. Aiming is a planning process that takes time and must be done before you can fire your way into a successful life, organization, or relationship.

You may ask, I know how to get ready, and how to fire, but how do I take aim and then fire? Or, Is this just another goal setting exercise? No, this is actually an exercise in life planning. In order to take aim your must know where you want to go, and what your passion is.

I have listed several questions below that will spark the creative part of your mind and help you establish your aim so that you will be able to achieve the kind of life, organization, and relationships you want.

Life Planning with accurate AIM:

  • Where do you want your life, organization, and relationships to be in five, ten, or twenty years? One way to answer this is to draw a picture. This picture will give you purpose, passion, and energy. It will also keep a visual in your mind as to what you are aiming at.

  • What standards of excellence, consistent growth, and specific review of progress do you need to set?

  • Do you have someone in your life to hold you accountable so you don't fire before you are ready or before you have taken aim?

  • A good system is better than a good friend when comes to life planning, therefore, what is on your to-do list today that will help you become more like your picture tomorrow?


Success In An Ever Changing WorldJeff Earlywine February 2003

Footprints and Monuments

Success In An Ever Changing World

By Jeff Earlywine

Well, it's that time of the year again. No, I don't mean the time of the year when the flowers bloom and the days get longer. What I am referring to is the sound of roaring engines and the waving of green and checkered flags. That's right, it's racing season!

Which brings me to my point; success in racing is always found in the ability to make the right changes at the right time. In racing, the person responsible for calling the right changes at the right time is [interesting enough the crew chief. This crew chief position is much like an organization's CEO, president, team leader, manager, boss, you. All these people strive for success, and the smart ones know when to make the right changes.

ENSURING IT'S A TEAM EFFORT

The best crew chiefs have as their top attribute the ability to get every member of their team pulling in the same direction. If a team has even one guy steadily complaining that the driver can't get the job done, or the rear tire changer is performing poorly, or the jack man is just too slow, it's trouble for the team and any crew chief who expects to succeed must put a quick end to this sort of thing.

ONE LEADER MULTIPLE WAYS

A good crew chief also has to have a very good working knowledge of the racecar. He has to be a little bit innovative as well. He must have the mentality that allows him to feel that even though something has been done one way for years, it might be worth trying a different approach if the old one no longer produces results. The best crew chiefs are those that are open and receptive to change.

A racing team is going to assume the personality of its crew chief. People on a racing team must want to work for a crew chief because they not only like him as a person, they like the way he handles things. A crew chief must inspire confidence. He can do that through hard work and dedication two things that will certainly rub off on those other members of the team.

TALKING THE SAME LANGUAGE

Communication between crew chief and a driver is vital. Being a crew chief not only means setting up the race cars but it also means being able to talk a driver through a race. Crew chiefs have to really understand the inflection in the comments made over the radio by their drivers during a race to really understand how the racecar is running. For instance, when a driver answers pretty good to the question of how a car is running, it's the way in which he inflects those words that gives a good crew chief the understanding of whether the adjustments needed on the car are a half round or maybe two rounds. It's only over time that this communication between driver and crew chief gets refined to where there's no doubt over what's being said.

Are you a crew chief in your organization? Has success been determined by the changes you have made? The following is something that you may have heard, but it is something basic that we need to keep in mind when making changes.

  • If you make the wrong change at the wrong time you have failure

  • If you make the right change at the wrong time you have resistance

  • If you make the wrong change at the right time you have low performance

  • If you make the right change at the right time you have success


What Can I Do To Improve My Job-Interviewing Skills?Paul Shearstone Whether you're a student job seeker or a polished and proven executive, the first thing you must come to terms with is, Regardless of the position you seek, you are now in sales! The product you are selling is YOU! The interview is your opportunity to differentiate yourself in the eyes of your customer [the interviewer when compared to your competitors [other job applicants.

Successful companies today are focused on building what's known as, corporate Unique Value-Add Propositions. Simply put, a unique value proposition is designed to differentiate companies / products and services, by making a decision to do business with you, an easy one. This is accomplished by means of removing the risk in customer's minds through obvious value-add.

So before you go into an interview, ask yourself, What is my unique Value-add for this company? What can I say, do, or show, that will separate me from all other candidates? And, How convincing am I?

There is no secret that in many cases today, the most qualified, are not always the ones hired. Sadly, many qualified individuals lose out on opportunities expressly due to their inability to distinguish themselves [in the interview by showing unique value-add. You may then ask, How does one construct a value-add interview? The process is surprisingly simple.

#1: As quickly as you can, write down all the words that describe your unique strengths that relate to the position to which you're applying. [Note: Five words are not enough. Try for at least fifteen / you may also ask others for their input.

#2: As quickly as you can, write down all the words that describe your potential weaknesses as they relate to the position to which you're applying.

#3: Turn each word into a sentence or statement. It does not have to be complicated. For example, if one of your strength-words was, experience you could simply say, I am experienced. [Note: Do the same for your weaknesses list as well.

#4: Take each sentence / statement, and turn them into a question. I am experienced becomes, Why am I experienced?

To answer the question, Why am I experienced? automatically brings to light your real Value-Add. From a selling point of view, being experienced' may be true, but it is only, however, a fact. How specifically, am I experienced, and, How it will therefore benefit the new company, is the real Risk-Removing, Unique-Value-Add-Information needed to showcase your talents.

Knowing the answers, ahead of time, to questions like, Why is [this a potential weakness for me - for this position? is equally integral to the success of any interview.

Remember that in business, The degree to which you cannot provide a unique Value-Add Proposition is in direct proportion to the degree you hurt yourself, your company and your industry. In any job interview, You are the company. The product you're selling is YOU!

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(P)Refer to Grow Your BusinessMiami Phillips (Although this article is geared towards small business owners, the information is just as applicable to a similar personal situation, only the action is slightly different.)

Here is the scenario. You have begun your day at work. Your day is planned ahead, with the big challenges first. You want to finish these up, get them out of the way and take a little time off this afternoon for yourself. You deserve and need it to stay your best for your family, yourself and your customers.

Just as you get into your first task of the morning, the phone rings. I need help right now! It's Joe Blow, your most troublesome customer (friend).

For the last six months, Joe has been coming to you with his problems (never challenges or opportunities) expecting you to drop everything and help him. From the very beginning you realized it was probably a mistake to have taken Joe on as a customer. No matter how much you charge Joe for your services, Joe will never be satisfied, and you will never make a profit.

Joe, and customers like him, seem to have an innate ability to attract problems as honey does bees. Of course he blames everyone else, waits until the last minute, and calls you to bail him out.

What do you do?

Don't. By fulfilling Joe's needs for instant gratification, and allowing him to create a habit of calling you instead of installing disciplines of his own you are hurting not only him, but you as well.

Don't bail him out. Be honest with him, and yourself. Refer him to someone who can help him if necessary. Try this: Joe, although I appreciate your business, in my opinion my company is not serving you in the manner you require, and this is not a good fit for both of us. With your permission, I am going to refer you to a company that I believe will be a much better match for your needs.

You should have a list of at least 100 people of every profession to whom you refer business and expect them to return the favor. You haven't done that? Refer Joe to an organizational, or business coach. Refer him to a competitor. Let them have him. You get rid of him and saddle them at the same time! Seriously though, you need to keep your priorities in line and in focus. Customers like Joe, no matter how well they pay, are seldom profitable when you factor in time, actual costs and energy consumed.

Focus on the customers or clients you want to attract, and make sure you have room in your business when they do show up. They always do.

Your Coach and online friend,

Miami

Miami Phillips


Helping others find their path - and stay on it.


www.creativemasterminds.com

Quotation of the Week

Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them.

W. Clement Stone



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Landscaping With Shrubs: Some Tips

Off all elements that you can place in your landscape, from flowers to plants to trees, the shrub is the most versatile. In this article we present information on shrubbery.

When you consider your landscape, you'll find that shrubs are one of the most versatile elements that you can employ. Shrubs can serve as a background for your flower or vegetable garden, as dividers between different areas of the yard, and even as privacy screens (otherwise known as hedges).

Shrubs come in a wide variety - over a hundred different genuses, with a variety of species within each genus: There are shrubs with brilliant flowers, or evergreen shrubs for all seasons.

What exactly are shrubs? According to the dictionary definition: A woody plant of relatively low height, having several stems arising from the base and lacking a single trunk; a bush. A rose bush is a shrub, for example, but so is a flowering dogwood. Have you heard that a dogwood is a tree? Well, some dogwoods are shrubs, and some are trees! Just as some lilacs are shrubs and some are trees. It all depends on how tall the individual species within the genus grows.

So there's quite a bit to learn about shrubbery before you decide on which ones you'll use in your landscaping endeavors. It's always best to consult with your local gardening experts while you're working on your design.

Website Wandering
But even though you'll want to talk to local gardeners about what would be best for your landscaping plans, you don't need to deal locally to acquire the shrubs. (Although it's always nice to support local businesses.) And you will find that there are restrictions - some states do not allow you to import certain plants ? Hawaii and Alaska are simply too far away.

But take a jaunt around the web to see what's out there.

For example Direct Gardening offers everything from bulbs to fruits and nuts to hedges to shrubs to vines and water plants. Their website has plenty of photos of all their offerings so you can see what everything looks like. (They also sell what they call Pre-planned gardens - a mixture of several different but complimentary plants that will all grow well in the same type of conditions.)

Nature Hills Nursery is another online business that offers a wide variety of starter plants. And their website has a feature in which you input your zipcode, and it comes back with the zone in which you live - and the flowers, plants, shrubs and trees that grow best in that zone.

Pruning
The major maintenance for shrubs is pruning ? you simply must prune your shrubs, not only to improve their appearance but also to help them grow healthy and strong. Hedge clippers and hand pruners are must have tools, loppers and a small pruning saw will also come in handy.


About the Author:

Andrew Caxton is a syndicated writer of http://www.lawn-mowers-and-garden-tractors.com . Find more publications about landscaping at his website.




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